tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984108090171664008.post8087949324673504331..comments2023-05-16T03:41:39.852-07:00Comments on Japolina!: Is this the new normal….Japolinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07298168458099473725noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984108090171664008.post-45434488699556363292015-06-23T19:50:14.257-07:002015-06-23T19:50:14.257-07:00Japolina, this is interesting and very different t...Japolina, this is interesting and very different to me, as I got married at 20 and was on my own. The girls moved out when they were around 19, and did almost everything on their own. I am certainly involved with my kids and I give them advice, but the decisions they make are their own. I know what you mean about some parents overindulging in their kids. How are they ever to grow?<br /><br />~SheriRed Rose Alleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02685747099912989862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984108090171664008.post-39104171888273896772015-04-15T13:38:55.610-07:002015-04-15T13:38:55.610-07:00I hate helicopter parents. I kept a close eye on ...I hate helicopter parents. I kept a close eye on my girls, read their emails and texts when they weren't looking. I think I was more of a James Bond mom than a helicopter mom. Great post. Preppy Empty Nesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13446028963455322844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984108090171664008.post-91062342138044828712015-04-15T10:42:02.635-07:002015-04-15T10:42:02.635-07:00Wow..clearly I came from the opposite end! I did e...Wow..clearly I came from the opposite end! I did everything I needed to do to get into college on my own (visits, applications, etc.) I'm thankful my parents trusted me on that part to figure out somethings on my own, though I'm sure I could have used some of their guidance at the time...but I would have gone absolutely crazy if they were helicopter parents. What's the point of "growing up/live it/make mistakes/learn from them" if they are doing everything for you!!! I Heart Miamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01763796033889679894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984108090171664008.post-78328065888138489812015-04-15T05:49:14.819-07:002015-04-15T05:49:14.819-07:00Japolina, I think our parenting "job" is...Japolina, I think our parenting "job" is to raise the children up with good morals and a sense of making the right choices. Once they go to college, yes you may want to see those grades and attendance records. Hey, if you are paying, you want the kid in class. to be real...kids need to know they may not get a job in their field of studies...sad fact. <br /> When my oldest went to college, I cried every day for a long time. It was a sense of loss...I think that is a bit empty nest feeling...even though I still had three more to get out the door. LOL. Julie, the world is a bit scarier than when I went through this. I think your boys know, you will always be there for them..just not holding their hands. Give yourself a nice pat on the back, you are a great mom. You know I tell people take time for each other(mates) ..because once those kids have left home, you want the person left with you to be your best friend....some people get all busy raising kids, getting them out of the house and then they are looking across the table at a stranger. Sweetheart, never let that happen. Blessings my dear friend, xoxo,SusieSusiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06425051654313691986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984108090171664008.post-6615225012340819402015-04-14T20:13:16.646-07:002015-04-14T20:13:16.646-07:00Yep- been there....lol I gave advice WHEN ASKED F...Yep- been there....lol I gave advice WHEN ASKED FOR and financial support. It was not always easy to "let go" but I think yo have to or you essentially cripple your children to some extent. <br /><br />We ended up with four successful kids that we loved, but didn't coddle. They all have great jobs and good families...and are happily married (except for the son that married an idiot)lol....not only MY opinion on that one, by the way. He is single now and once again happy. (He did NOT take my advice when he asked if I thought he should marry her)...see what happens when you DON'T listen to your Mom?!?!<br /><br />I loved this post, Julie! xo DianaNanaDianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14298962791700019785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984108090171664008.post-82220581471222959002015-04-14T18:41:36.596-07:002015-04-14T18:41:36.596-07:00I helped each of my children move into their dorm ...I helped each of my children move into their dorm rooms. They wanted the help caring up boxes of stuff. I stocked the Frig. The next day I helped with anything they needed, we went out for lunch or a dinner.<br />I said goodbye and drove off. I think the next time I saw them is when they were packing to drive home.<br />The only son I didn't help was when he was at school in England and Japan. I bought his ticket and gave him money for school he did the rest. <br />I can't believe the Mom who is texting all day. I feel for the poor kid.<br />Yes you miss them but my goodness let them grow and leave.<br />One of Daughters friends mother went to a professor they had and argued her daughters grade.<br /> <br />It gets crazy when applying and getting the acceptances letters. So many mothers get caught up in one upping each other. Be fore warned and have a huge bottle of Advil handy.<br /><br />Good Luck !<br />cheers, parsnip<br /><br /><br />angryparsniphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17236094827257446781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984108090171664008.post-25023544969027888142015-04-14T18:27:24.227-07:002015-04-14T18:27:24.227-07:00Ha! I mean I am certainly no where near that and I...Ha! I mean I am certainly no where near that and I don't know any parents with kids ready for college, esp on FB. Oh wait, I know one with older kids and they seem to help with everything. I always think it is odd...like, shouldn't the kids be doing that themselves? Hopefully I feel the same way when Aria is college bound because it isn't the real world but it certainly is a learning experience so you can handle yourself in life. Courtney [Sweet Turtle Soup]https://www.blogger.com/profile/13511662684917860206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984108090171664008.post-72286065484797642972015-04-14T17:53:09.395-07:002015-04-14T17:53:09.395-07:00This gave me a good laugh on many levels, but sadl...This gave me a good laugh on many levels, but sadly, it's all true! I felt very much the way you did when I was in college. With a high school sophomore, I'm just getting my feet wet with this college thing, but I'm already not sleeping nights, worrying about whether he'll get in, and if he does, will he be able to hack it? I need an intervention! Or a drink! Or both :) Thanks for this - loved it! Amy at Ms. Toody Goo Shoeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11474198992341706776noreply@blogger.com