Snag a Husband part 2...

Sunday, April 7, 2013

Yesterday I discussed my thoughts on the letter to Princeton women about their options for a mate peaking while at the Ivy League University.

I thought about it some more and had a bit of a discussion with my husband over delicious sushi and I think that I have a more concrete opinion about the topic.

Love will find you. You need to be open to it but you can't really plan it.  Searching for a husband, whether it be on a college campus , a television show or through a matchmaker  is probably a long shot.  Sure there are stories of people who actively search for a spouse and find one (and supposedly live "happily ever after" but they are the exception rather than the rule. Anyone can find another and get married but to find the one that is "it" is way more complicated than that.  It requires an open heart and mind and a lot of luck. Once you find that person, it requires work, loyalty and dedication.  

I met my soulmate when I was 24 years old. I was not looking for a husband.  On paper, no one would have ever set us up. That being said, from the moment that I met him, the spark was there. He was "it". Flash forward 20 plus years, a couple of kids and all of the stuff (good and bad) that life throws at us, we are the best couple that I know. By the way, my husband and I attended the same University, lived in the same apartment complex during out sophomore year and had mutual friends but never met until years later when we were both living in Miami. Who knows, had we dated in college, we may have never ended up together. It was not our time. It was meant to be, but not then.

So my message to the Princeton women would be, go get your degree but keep your hearts and minds open. Live your lives. Que sera, sera...whatever will be, will be.  

7 comments:

vivian said...

good morning!! I dont know why I didnt have you on my side bar.. but i did just add you. now I can find you with out you leaving a comment! sometimes Im just slow like that!
have a delightful sunday.
I shall return.. now that I have your blogsite saved!
xoxo
vivian

Susie said...

Japolina, I love that you and your husband can still have talks while having dinner....thus truly enjoying each other's company. I met my Teddy after I had been alone 19 year. My daughter says it may not have worked for us ,if life had not made us who we were at the time. So see you are right..keep an open mind . Thanks for the compliment this morning.:):) xoxo, Susie

Empress Bee (of the high sea) said...

agree!

smiles, bee
xoxo

Ellie VanCaster said...

I totally agree with your opinion here and think it's wonderful you met your best friend and soulmate.
Have a good Sunday

angryparsnip said...

Interesting two day blog post and I so agree what you said today.

cheers, parsnip

Rachel @ Existation said...

Agreed! I'm not married, but I've been with the same guy for 3 years, and the marriage thing will eventually happen with him. There is no formula for finding the right guy. And it's SO TRUE that whenever I wasn't looking, that's when I always ended up finding someone I wanted to date, both with my current boyfriend and past boyfriends. That Princeton letter is very silly to me.

NanaDiana said...

Amen!!!!! You got it right! I knew you would!!!! xo Diana

 
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