It was supposed to be a silly GNO...

Thursday, August 1, 2013

I have a group of girlfriends that I have lunch or drinks with about once a month. They are my "fun friends". We laugh and gossip and then go off on our merry ways. I don't speak to any of them on a regular basis. I like them all and I know that if I needed something, they would help, but they are not my "core" friends. They are mostly entertainment.

I was looking forward to a summer girls night out (GNO) last night. Kids at camp usually make for the best GNO's.   I should have taken it as an omen that things were not going to be fantastic when two of the girls canceled. Then the remaining three of us could not pick a place to go.   We finally settled on our usual, over-priced watering hole inside the lounge of the fanciest steak place in town.  The drinks are $15 and up and the service is terrible but they don't try to rush us out of the table and they don't yell at us when we are laughing and being loud.

I got there and one of the girls was there.  While we waited for the last girl to show up she told me her latest drama. She is going through a bad break up. It is getting super-ugly. They were not married but lawyers are involved.  He is a jerk. She is a great girl. It is a good thing she is getting out alive.

Instead of laughing, there was crying. I was giving advice like Dear Abby.

My best advice of the night came when she was complaining about what everyone in town was going to say about their break up.  "Don't take this the wrong way but no one really gives a crap about your break up. You are not a Kardashian", I said.  I guess the ghost of Dear Abby does not have to worry about me taking over her column. Right?  

Seriously, I explained that even though they were a known couple in the community, people were not going to have whole dinners devoted to discussing the erosion of their relationship. They might wonder for a second as to who dumped who and/or why but I doubt that people that they know are really that interested.   

One of the few things that is good about getting older is that you don't care what people think as much. At least I don't.  I also think that people don't really care about what is going on in other people's lives as much as you might think that they do.   

Luckily the therapy session ended once the wine kicked in and I did end up laughing a lot.

What is the best advice that you have given a friend lately?


NanaDiana said...

Oh- I hear you! It's amazing how people always think it is always all about them...and half the people don't even know what is happening half the time.

My best advice to a friend of mine- married almost 40 years (she is SO old-snicker). I told her that she needed to "grow up" and quit whining about everything. I gave her a book called the 5 Love Languages and told her to read it for her and have her hubby read it, too. xo Diana

Susie said...

Japolina, I had to are so right. People don't really care about all our woes...cause they have their own. She'll be fine, if she is getting away....if it's from someone untrusting and mean...she may want to watch her back. xoxo,Susie

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