I was looking forward to a summer girls night out (GNO) last night. Kids at camp usually make for the best GNO's. I should have taken it as an omen that things were not going to be fantastic when two of the girls canceled. Then the remaining three of us could not pick a place to go. We finally settled on our usual, over-priced watering hole inside the lounge of the fanciest steak place in town. The drinks are $15 and up and the service is terrible but they don't try to rush us out of the table and they don't yell at us when we are laughing and being loud.
I got there and one of the girls was there. While we waited for the last girl to show up she told me her latest drama. She is going through a bad break up. It is getting super-ugly. They were not married but lawyers are involved. He is a jerk. She is a great girl. It is a good thing she is getting out alive.
Instead of laughing, there was crying. I was giving advice like Dear Abby.
My best advice of the night came when she was complaining about what everyone in town was going to say about their break up. "Don't take this the wrong way but no one really gives a crap about your break up. You are not a Kardashian", I said. I guess the ghost of Dear Abby does not have to worry about me taking over her column. Right?
Seriously, I explained that even though they were a known couple in the community, people were not going to have whole dinners devoted to discussing the erosion of their relationship. They might wonder for a second as to who dumped who and/or why but I doubt that people that they know are really that interested.
One of the few things that is good about getting older is that you don't care what people think as much. At least I don't. I also think that people don't really care about what is going on in other people's lives as much as you might think that they do.
Luckily the therapy session ended once the wine kicked in and I did end up laughing a lot.
What is the best advice that you have given a friend lately?